HAVE YOU EVER STARTED SOMETHING NEW TO YOU BUT FREAKED OUT AFTER THE FIRST FEW MINUTES?
Have you ever wanted to try something cool, exciting, scary and unknown to you but changed your mind at the last minute?
I bet you did. Actually, all of us at some point in life decided to quit something whenever it got hard, difficult and simply too scary for us to go on. That’s okay. It’s natural. However, what is not okay is to keep quitting every single time you get a little bit frightened.
I’m a quitter.
You have no idea how it pains me to write the words, “I am a quitter.”
I quit whenever it becomes hard for me. I quit when it gets scary. I quit when I get scared and anxious. I quit every single time when I know I shouldn’t but I did.
The problem with me is that I’m in Love with my comfort zone. When things get little hard and crazy for me and make me step outside of my comfort zone, I quit. It’s more comfortable for me to quit than to step out of my comfort zone. But damn it’s bad for me right!!
I once went to learn swimming when I was a child. My dad introduced me to the coach whom I didn’t know. I learned swimming for a while but when the coach wants me to take part in the swimming competition, which scared me a bit because I was kinda shy at that time. All it took me to grab my things and go back to home. I quitted swimming before even trying to participate in the competition.
Then I joined judo classes. This time the coach seems to be strict and disciplined and damn he was. Everything was going well for some months, I was really enjoying the judo classes. But then the coach started teaching me Boxing without even asking me that I want to learn boxing or not. Due to my good height, he wants me to enter into boxing competitions and then you all know what happens, I quit again. I quitted it so fast and with such determination that I couldn’t believe myself. I didn’t want to prove myself, I didn’t want to have another boxing match ever in my life even if I loved how intense they could get and how exciting the whole process was.
But I didn’t want to do it because it was too intimidating and hard for me. I rather sit in my comfort zone and observe than go out there and punch someone in the face.
It would take me more than a day if started listing out all the activities and the situations I have quitted because I didn’t know where I was going with them and investing more time in them sounded too difficult to me
During my college years, I quitted two activities which I really adored. I quitted acting and blogging. Yes, I do have a blog earlier. I don’t know why I abandoned my old blog and even quitted acting which was the two most precious things happened to me in my entire life.
I stopped myself from doing the things I deeply desired to all my life. That’s just who I am was. A quitter and I’m damn good at that.
That was until I started this blog.
Though it has been just a few months. There were many moments when I wanted to say ‘fuck it’ and just delete it. I didn’t have motivation. I was doubting myself. I didn’t have ideas of what to write. I didn’t know how to do it and if anyone ever read it. I know that I’m not that good in writing but this time I will not quit no matter what happens, I’m not going to quit.
Something is holding me from quitting blogging. For once in my life, I wanted to do it even if it was hard, difficult at times and bloody overwhelming. I think the day I started this blog was the day I started making a change in myself. A good one.
I was ruled by fear and not just the fear of failure but also the fear of success. I used to think to be afraid of success was nonsense, but it’s not. One of my favorite quotes by Marianne Williamson expresses this sentiment so perfectly:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”It’s hard to focus on your light on days when you feel dark. It’s hard to remember how powerful you are on days that you feel weak and defeated. But dammit, I’d rather die trying than spend any more time quitting. So a little word of advice from my personal experience: don’t quit just because it sounds easier. Step out of your comfort zone. Do something new once in a while, try new things, don’t quit in the middle even if it scares the hell out of you. Don’t hold yourself back because it is an easier way out. We all have only one life so why not use it all to its fullest potential. Let’s Chat: What are the things you have quitted upon? Do you regret that decision? You can also share how you stopped quitting…
I wanted to quit my job , it was awful. But after struggling for some time , my bf convinced me to change it . I was miserable in my previous office , but again after few months , i gathered courage and applied in another place. I liked this one , so i am good now. When you quit somthing , you should atleast try for once again, maybe you will be surprised ?
Glad to hear that you love your new place. Yes you are right we do need to give us an another chance to see whether things worked out this time or not. Thank you for reading! and providing your perspective. Have a great day!!! 🙂
Ah, the fear of success. Yes. That wobbly feeling when feel I might succeed. I strove to be average at school. But one year I came first in the class at English and then did a pretty good job of hiding that fact from everyone. Note to self: It’s ok to be good at something.
Congrats for that G.E.Allen..
I can relate with that lovely feeling and that fear of success…
I liked your selfnote. It’s definitely pleasurable when your are good at something..
Have a great day!!??
Love this!!!! Thanks for sharing. I can relate. It’s only after I’ve had children that I’ve stopped quitting so easily.
?Glad you liked it…
Yeahh children does changes everything?
Havea great day!!
Hey, you’re blogs are really so good and relatable. We should totally collaborate and share ideas and bring out the deep stuff we always wanna talk about and to inspire people.
Hello Sashaaa, Thank you so much for these lovely words. Even I was looking for some collaborations. Contact me on info@vinaygarg.me
or even we can chat on whats app or twitter. Although I do liked your blog posts, so let’s see what we can do… Have a great day!??