The Insider’s Guide To Happiness

Happiness, Not that big a term. Not complex at all. So, let me ask you this, when you see/hear this word, what is the first thing that comes to your mind?
For me, it’s always been a big yellow circle, with 2 eyes, and a broad smile ? yes, this. And I’m not making it up. Some people see things or people when asked this question. For me, it’s always been this smiley. Yes, of course, you can associate your happiness with the things or the people that make you happy (it’s all a part of it). But then again, what happens if THAT happiness circling around your most loved person/thing is taken or snatched away from you? Like, a mishap or maybe some circumstance. No, frankly, where will that happiness go? ‘Cause I know it’ll be gone, away from you, and you don’t know when you will get it back, or at all if you’ll get it back or not. What happens then? You can’t do anything about it. You’ll just have to go with the flow. You’ll feel as if a part of you is gone, you’re not yourself anymore, you’ll be all messed up and stuff. Happens. And all this is a part of life.

Even when there are times that we’re not happy, happiness will creep in.

There are people in this world who have faced worse things in life and yet they try to stay strong and happy and you can’t spot any difference in them. You should think if they can do it, why not me? I can be happy too. I have the right to be happy – And of course, you do. Everyone does. Sometimes even I sit in one corner of my room and think about stuff, shitty stuff – stuff that ends up making me angry or at the most cry or something. But then again, when I’m over with the outburst, I think – why? There’s no reason to be upset and if I have something going wrong in life, I should mend it and if I can’t, I should wait for it to get back to normal. I’m 20, I’m young and I have my whole life ahead of me. I have a career to pursue, I have some expectations to live up to, I have like SO much to do. Then why by just a single problem should I make myself upset? And if I can’t face this, then how will I face bigger and worse situations in my later life? And when I think like this, I suddenly become happy again. I wipe my tears, get up, look in the mirror and smile, ’cause life is short and one shouldn’t be influenced by trivial things in life.

The pursuit of happiness is in our Constitution. We’re all entitled to have the best we can.

Happiness is a state of mind. It comes from within and not from materialistic stuff. And yes, it gets influenced. So it’s basically up to you to make sure how you want your happiness to be – temporary or permanent (guest or life partner). Trust me when I say this, happiness is hard to find once you lose it. It’s not from the same things or the same people anymore. It takes the time to come back and by the time you try, you might just turn insane. So caution yourself before taking things to the heart a lot, you know, attaching yourself to things so much because when that thing doesn’t exist anymore, it hurts. Way too bad. I can say this from experience and again, I’m just 23, so yep – have more things to face of course. But I’m writing down all that I know. So whoever’s reading this might just relate with me here – maybe something WAY bigger or just a small thing, but I know that most of us find it hard to stay happy all the time. It’s like an art, and it takes a lifetime to master it to perfection.

Firstly, start with being optimistic. An optimistic approach to life is the key to
success is the start of a new journey in life. Happiness comes from the mind so until and unless you’re happy from the mind, you won’t be happy from the heart. I find this blog the way to express how I REALLY feel from within. I have so much to talk about, so much to share, and at the end of the day, all this makes me happy. I feel lighter. I feel confident. I feel an aura of positivity encircling me and yes, the feeling is pretty good. In general, I’m very moody. I’m argumentative, I’m stubborn, I’m messed up and I over think a lot and make myself upset most of the time. I have bad habits, and I’m not a healthy person – physically, mentally, and sometimes socially too (Again, depends on my mood!). I have insecurities, I am way too emotional and maybe somewhere, an escapist. But I’m trying to change myself, for good. All this negativity lies inside me, I don’t feel good. I feel like banging my head against a wall or something. I really wish there was a restart button for life (haha) but obviously, there isn’t.

Happiness is the sublime moment when you get out of your corsets at night.

So all I’ve got to say is – You have
to stay happy. You have to find out what makes you upset, and try to make it right or at the most eradicate it, have a positive bent of mind and then slowly and steadily involve yourself into activities that give you joy. And hey, before all this, start with looking at yourself in the mirror every day when you get up, and smile for 5 minutes. Just 5 minutes. And who knows, soon you’ll get so habituated with all this, you’ll be like – What!? Me and sad? Are you kidding? I don’t have time to sit back and ponder on stuff that makes me unhappy. I have a beautiful life, and I have no reason to be upset. I’m happy and I plan on being so this way, forever.

 

Have you found your happiness yet? Leave your thoughts below!